We are a non-profit organization dedicated to promoting awareness and supporting male victims of childhood sexual abuse. Our focus extends to the recovery of men and teen guys who have been sexually victimized, primarily in childhood. We also aim to support friends, family, and loved ones of male survivors and provide information relevant to professionals.
Larry Conrad is a retired university academic who earned his Ph.D. at Princeton in 1981. He has held professorships at the American University of Beirut, the Wellcome Institute (London), University College London, and the University of Hamburg in Germany.
He is the author or editor of more than 200 academic books and articles in English, French, and German, and has served as editor or contributor for numerous encyclopedias published in the United States and various European countries. A leading advocate of international collaboration, he has lectured at universities and conferences worldwide and has held sabbaticals and professional fellowships from universities and foundations in the United States, United Kingdom, Germany, Netherlands, Italy, Sweden, Russia, Israel, and Japan. He has received several awards for his work with at-risk youth and young male survivors in Pennsylvania.
Larry's current work focuses on at-risk youth and childhood trauma. He is the former website administrator of MaleSurvivor, a major online resource for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, and has led or participated in various government and NGO programs to raise professional and public awareness of issues relating to this issue. His Secret Doors (2018), a workbook for male survivors (available here), has been acknowledged as “the best workbook for male survivors,” and more recently he has published Beating the Odds (2023), an anthology of autobiographical essays by male survivors on topics relating to recovery from childhood sexual abuse (available here). He is also engaged in a long-term study of male survivor memoirs worldwide.
Our Phoenix Foundation draws inspiration from the ancient myth of the phoenix—a symbol of resilience and rebirth. Designed by Chris, our colorful phoenix serves as a reminder to survivors that recovery is not only possible but can lead to transformative change.
The term “soul murder” goes back centuries, with various meanings along the way (as in vampires, for example). In the 1970s the psychiatrists Morton Schatzman (1973) and then Leonard Shengold (1974 and after) used it in the titles of articles and books about child abuse to highlight the severe consequences of abuse, though not to claim that victims’ lives were reduced to irretrievable ruin. In fact, their work highlights cases of remarkable recovery.
Nevertheless, these days “soul murder” is often used to imply that recovery from sexual abuse is impossible. It suggests that no matter what a survivor does, he will never be more than a shadow – a caricature – of the boy or man he otherwise could have been. It discourages guys who are considering disclosure, and when a survivor faces new and unexpected challenges or feels it’s all too much, it tempts him to give up or wonder if recovery just isn’t possible for him. It can lead him to credit such discouraging ideas as “it was a long time ago,” “get over it,” or “it’s time to man up and move on.” It holds us back from acknowledging the possibility that even though there is still work to be done, there are ways in which we are already thriving.
The simple truth is that recovery isn’t an impossible task. It’s a path on which any guy can achieve results he once thought would be impossible, or would never have dreamed of at all. No matter how discouraged or ravaged you feel, no matter what was done to you, a way forward is there for you.
Others will appear who will assist, encourage, and support you: a therapist, for example, a spiritual advisor, a mentor, a solid friend, an understanding partner, a circle of brother survivors. But they are not the ones who will provide you with the strength and courage you need. You already have that strength and courage. Recovery is all about learning to acknowledge these resources, believe in them, and then trust them as the keys to exploring your own unique gifts so you can move forward in ways and at a pace that works for you.
The heap of ashes is not where we’re doomed to remain. Strength and courage – let the color and power of the phoenix logo remind you that we’ve all got what it takes.
Join us in making a lasting impact on the lives of those affected by sexual abuse. Your generous donation helps us expand our resources and advocacy for survivors. Together, we can bring hope, healing, and positive change.
